Writing to Right – Communication

This time last year I thought  I knew how to communicate with people fairly well. Little did I know my journey into the blogging world would take me through streets of awareness and highways of realizations when it comes to engaging with readers and other bloggers. I first started to take notice at The Hive in Berlin, a conference I took part in this summer to begin building a community and meet other creatives whose passion was sharing their inspiration was similar to mine. It was during that rainy weekend in May when it hit me; I was about to learn a lot about life from blogging.

What I wasn’t fully prepared for was the rejection and turndowns I received from many “bigger name” bloggers. After many unreturned emails and late cancellations I was aware I wanted to be different and became grateful for my experience.  I will admit it was at times a little hurtful; my ego got slammed when the door was closed in my face but in return I learned a lot. I made it a principle to place communication at the forefront of my personal and business life. For me, relationships are more important than money, fame or recognition. In my knowing, I learn the most about life through being relational with people and I knew my readers were no different.

When it comes to life in general {especially as a blogger} the communication “field” as I call it is vast. Imagine with me a large plot of land in Montana, covered in beautiful grass and wildflowers in the summer. In one corner there is email, the one thing that seems to always have useful weeds growing in it. In the middle is social media where every farmer in the state is watching how you care for  your land. Around the edge is personal contact, real, live interactions with people, which require authentic communication. We are in the field, taking in all the opportunities we are given to establish relationships with people just like us. My question to myself is always the same, “Who do you want to be in this field, ordinary or extraordinary”? Keeping in mind one is not better than the other, it is just different. Would I like to be someone who responds from a place of mindfulness or a woman who has become too busy to give back and make life more about relating to people?




I know myself quite well and when I cannot find the time to respond to a comment whether it is social media, email or a phone call I have become distanced from my true self, which is not where I want to be. Do you ever notice how alive you feel when someone responds to your comment or note? It amazes me how much of a difference one simple gesture can do. Communication is everything and there is no such thing as “too busy” for me. I have a lot on my plate and I choose to make it the way I do but I also have principles in which I live and work by that make designing my life a meaningful process.

By writing a blog, I am not only sharing my life, I am righting my life and that is profound and significant. Will you join me in this movement of making it a practice to respond, communicate and engage with others even when you feel you don’t have the time? Are you willing to take a few extra moments and acknowledge even more than you already do, another person? If we all do this together we can create an environment, a field full of kindness and genuine wildflowers that bring everyone happiness….it is simple yet significant.


See you in Montana!



  • Maryellen Quarles

    With this lovely post, you have just moved to the top of my favorite blogs list. Thank you for sharing this thoughtful reflection–I agree with your point that when you cannot find the time or take the time to connect with another person, you need to reassess your priorities. The world would experience a wonderful sea change if everyone could set this as their personal intention at the beginning of each day.

    • http://thelittleroomofstyle.com/ Jocelyn Casey

      @maryellenquarles:disqus What a lovely note to read! Thank you for stopping by and taking a moment to share your thoughts. Let’s make our contribution back to the community our intention to take time to communicate in a genuine way while understanding this is our way, it’s not better or worse….just different. Jocelyn x

  • http://www.savorychicks.com/ Anja Reimer

    Dear Jocelyn, you speak my mind with every word. I have gone through the same experience. In the blogging and social media world, but also all too often in the “real” world, not to respond to someone seems to be the “cool” thing to do – because one is so very busy or too important to take the time to resond to another person. In my opinion, it is simply utterly rude. Every time someone reaches out to you, by leaving a comment or a phone message, someone has spent some time, thoughts, and often appreciation for you, so why would one not reverse this kind gesture. As a working & blogging mom I know how hard it can be to take the time to respond to or connect with another person – but I agree with you and Maryellen, in that case, one needs to reassess their priorities.

    • http://thelittleroomofstyle.com/ Jocelyn Casey

      @anjareimer:disqus I always love to read what your thoughts are and I thank you for sharing them with us. It is a principle in my life to connect with everyone on some level, no matter what. Thank you for stopping by and please do some back! Jocelyn x